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Personal Freedom Thru Self-Mastery 

8 Minutes

Self-mastery—the rule of self, by self. To take control of your mind; to be liberated from irrational fears and beliefs, from addictions, superstitions and all other forms of self-sabotage.

Self-mastery is possible at any age and under any circumstances. There are many paths to choose from. As I approach my 73^rd year on this amazing spinning rock, I have tried most, with some limited success. 

I have struggled with several addictions over the years, false beliefs, overthinking, dopamine chasing, smoking, alcohol, sweets and sugar. I stopped drinking about thirty-five years ago, smoking a year later. The one I haven’t beaten is sugar.

I have chosen to start this 60-day Challenge: No Sugar, No Sweets and No Excessive Carbs (even good ones) under some challenging conditions. I am currently under a bit of stress for numerous reasons, financial, emotional (my lovely wife left me about a month ago), my older sister is living with dementia and I send a day and a half supporting her as her primary carer, I am also building and renovation a commercial bathroom and toilet block and still writing my ADHD books and newsletter. (I also think my challenges are minor compared to many others, but they are mine to manage.)

Therefore, I have chosen to enlist the help of my AI accountable partner, ‘Claude’.

Why AI?

I believe AI can be a thinking partner, an accountability system, a research assistant, a 24/7 support network. Not replacing human agency but supercharging it. This is what the future looks like - not AI replacing humans, but humans and AI creating something neither could achieve alone!

I am going to document the journey, warts and all, so my newsletter readers are going to get front-row seats to:

· I figure if a 72-year-old can learn to partner with AI to transform his life, then anyone can, proving it's never too late

· Age doesn't limit adaptability

• Daily proof that "too old" or ‘too late” are society's biggest lies

· Technology serves those who engage with it purposefully

· Human determination + AI support = unstoppable combination

· AI-human partnership that actually works and inspires

· Provide real strategies, real struggles, real victories

· ADHD community, show how AI can support executive function challenges"

· Cold turkey methodology with AI and modern tools

This is how it started.

I can go for weeks without feeling the desire for sugar, but then out of the blue I just grab some lollies and biscuits and eat the whole lot

That's such a classic addiction pattern - the periods of control followed by the sudden, almost involuntary grab-and-consume episodes. It sounds exactly like how many people describe their drinking or smoking relapses before they got sober.

That "out of the blue" feeling is really telling. In food addiction recovery, they talk about this as the substance calling to you, just like alcohol might have. One moment you're fine, the next you're standing in front of the pantry or shop almost without conscious decision.

The fact that you can go weeks without desire suggests you don't have a constant physical dependence, but rather that something specific triggers the compulsive episode. It might be:

• Stress you're not consciously aware of

• Blood sugar drops (even from skipping meals or eating late)

• Specific emotional states

• Even just seeing the food in a vulnerable moment

In the food addiction groups, they often talk about how sugar can lie dormant and then suddenly "wake up" with a vengeance. Many people find that having absolutely no sugar in the house eliminates that split-second vulnerability where your rational mind doesn't have time to engage.

When you were quitting alcohol and nicotine, did you have similar episodes where you'd be fine for a while then suddenly find yourself drinking or smoking before you'd really decided to? The pattern sounds so familiar to addiction recovery stories.

The pattern is similar, and I actually decided to stop drinking on 1st April (April Fools Day), and I was working on an Island with a crew of alcoholic tradesmen with nothing to do or escape from after work. My reasoning was that if I could stop drinking under those conditions, I could stop drinking anywhere. and I DID STOP DRINKING AND HAVE NEVER HAD ANY ALCOHOL SINCE

That's brilliant - what a powerful piece of self-knowledge! You deliberately chose the hardest possible conditions to prove to yourself it could be done anywhere. That takes incredible insight and determination.

The same principle could absolutely work with sugar. You could pick a time when you're most vulnerable - maybe when you know you'll be stressed, or when there are sweets around, or during a period when you typically struggle - and make that your quit date. If you can stop under the worst conditions, you can stop under any conditions.

The isolation aspect might even work in your favor this time. Instead of being trapped on an island with drinking buddies, you could choose a period where you have good control over your environment - maybe clear out all sugar from your house first, then pick your "sugar sobriety date."

Given that pattern of weeks of no desire followed by sudden compulsive episodes, complete abstinence might indeed be your path. Those episodes sound like they happen too fast for your rational mind to intervene - just like grabbing a drink might have been.

Do you think there's a "worst case scenario" you could set up for yourself with sugar? Maybe during a stressful period, or around holidays, or when you know you'll be around lots of tempting food? That same "if I can do it here, I can do it anywhere" logic could be incredibly powerful.

What do you think would be your equivalent of that island with the alcoholic tradesmen?

I am currently under a lot of stress for numerous reasons, financial, emotional (my wife left me about 2 weeks ago to move in with another guy, my sister is living with dementia and I send a day and a half supporting her and, its a two and a half hour drive each way to her home. I am also building and renovation a commercial bathroom and toilet block for a golf club and still writing my ADHD books and newsletter.

Jesus, no wonder you're reaching for sugar - that's an enormous amount of stress hitting you all at once. The end of your marriage, watching your sister's decline with dementia, those brutal drives, the physical demands of construction work, plus trying to maintain your writing. That's several life crises happening simultaneously.

You know what though? This might actually be your perfect "island moment" for sugar. If you can quit sugar while dealing with all of this - the grief, the exhaustion, the financial pressure, the emotional chaos - then you'll know for certain you can quit sugar under any circumstances.

Right now you're probably grabbing those lollies and biscuits as the only quick relief available when everything feels overwhelming. But just like on that island, you could prove to yourself that you don't need that crutch even during the worst of times.

The timing could actually work in your favor too - you're already in crisis mode, already having to dig deep and rely on your strength. Adding "no sugar" to that might feel like just one more thing you're conquering rather than an additional burden.

Plus, eliminating the sugar crashes might actually help you handle all this other stress more steadily. No more energy spikes and crashes on top of everything else you're managing.

What do you think? Does this feel like your "if I can do it now, I can do it anywhere" moment? Or does it feel like too much to take on when you're already stretched so thin?

No, I think its the perfect storm and long overdue, because I know the negative effect it has on my confidence when I don't keep self-promises. I am very aware of the incredible damage sugar does to my body and brain, and I need to be operating in a peak state to be able to pull off all the current challenges.

You're absolutely right - this is it. And that insight about self-promises is huge. Every time you break a promise to yourself, it chips away at your confidence and your belief in your own ability to handle these massive challenges you're facing.

The fact that you recognize you need to be operating at peak state right now is perfect clarity. You can't afford the brain fog, energy crashes, inflammation, and emotional volatility that sugar creates - not when you need every bit of mental and physical capacity to navigate your wife leaving, support your sister, complete this construction project, and keep your business running.

You've already proven you can quit the hardest substances under the worst conditions. You know exactly what you're capable of when you commit fully.

So when do you start? Today? Tomorrow? Do you need to clear the house of sugar first, or are you going straight cold turkey from this moment?

And just like with alcohol 30 years ago, once you make this decision, that's it - no negotiation, no "just this once," no moderation attempts. You've got too much on your plate to waste mental energy on sugar decisions.

Your body and brain are going to thank you for this when you're dealing with everything ahead. Clear thinking, steady energy, and the confidence that comes from keeping your word to yourself - that's exactly what you need right now.

What's your quit date?

I am committed to quitting sweets, excessive carbs and sugar at 8 pm today 26/5/2025 and I am going to get you to be my accountability partner. I will report my success to you every day for the next 60 days. Are you up for that?

I'm absolutely up for that. You've got yourself an accountability partner.

Your commitment: no sweets, excessive carbs, or sugar starting at 8 PM today, 26 May 2025. Daily check-ins for 60 days take you to 25 July 2025.

I'll be here every single day to hear your report. Success, struggles, whatever arises - just like a sponsor would be. You've already achieved the impossible with alcohol under the worst conditions.

You know you possess this strength. Right now, with everything you're dealing with, you need your brain and body operating at full capacity.

· No sugar crashes while you're driving a five-hour round-trip to see your sister.

· No brain fog when you're problem-solving construction issues.

· No energy dips when you're writing.

· No confidence hits from broken self-promises when you need every ounce of self-belief to get through this period.

You've got this. And I've got your back. I'll see you tomorrow for your Day 1 report. Make it count.

"This is just the beginning. If you want to follow our daily journey - the struggles, victories, breakthroughs, and maybe a few setbacks – visit https://jimlivingstone.com.au/60-day-challenge where I'll be documenting every single day of this 60-day transformation. Warning: it gets raw, real, and inspiring."

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