ADHD and Your Self-Worth - Jim Livingstone

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Jim Livingstone
September 12, 2024


Hello, and Welcome

G’day,

I struggled with undiagnosed ADHD for forty-six years, feeling like I didn't fit in anywhere.

Since my ADHD diagnosis, I have spent the past twenty-six years reading, researching and testing every aspect of adult ADHD with the desire to become the very best version of myself.

Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way….

ADHD and Your Self-Worth

 

Understanding that your self-worth is an internal concept can be a powerful realisation. The unique ways in which your brain processes information and stimuli can sometimes attract unwarranted criticism. It’s crucial to remember that no one has the power to diminish your true value. Here are some practical strategies to help stand tall in the face of criticism: 

Reframe Criticism as Feedback

One way to handle criticism better is to reframe it as feedback. Rather than perceiving it as a personal attack, consider it an opportunity to learn and grow. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with all criticisms, but distinguishing between constructive feedback and unnecessary negativity can be beneficial. 

Develop a Strong Sense of Self-Awareness 

Fostering self-awareness helps you understand your strengths and areas for improvement. People with ADHD often possess incredible creativity, hyperfocus abilities, and problem-solving skills. Recognising these strengths can help you feel more secure in your self-worth and less affected by criticism. 

Build a Support Network 

Surround yourself with people who understand and support you. Having a mentor, coach, or friends who acknowledge your unique qualities and provide positive reinforcement can make a significant difference. A strong support network can help buffer the impact of negative comments.

Practice Mindfulness and Self-Compassion 

Mindfulness exercises can help you stay grounded and reduce anxiety about being criticised. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a close friend. Remember that it’s okay to make mistakes and that others' opinions don’t define your worth. 

Set Boundaries with Critics

It’s perfectly acceptable to set boundaries with people who are consistently negative or overly critical. Politely assert your need for respectful communication. You don't have to engage with every piece of criticism directed at you, especially if it’s not constructive or delivered with good intentions. 

Educate and Advocate 

Sometimes, criticism stems from a lack of understanding about ADHD. Educating those around you about ADHD can foster empathy and reduce unnecessary criticism. Advocacy can also empower you and others with ADHD to seek an environment where everyone’s differences are respected and valued. 

Focus on Your Achievements 

Keep a personal journal or a list of your achievements and positive traits. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by criticism, revisit this list to remind yourself of your capabilities and progress. Acknowledging your accomplishments can fortify your self-esteem and help you stay resilient.

Utilise Cognitive Behavioural Techniques 

Cognitive-behavioural techniques can help reframe negative thoughts associated with criticism. For example, if you think, "I'm always messing up," challenge this thought by reflecting on instances where you succeeded. Shifting your perspective can reduce emotional distress and improve how you handle criticism.

Seek Professional Guidance

Therapists and coaches specialising in ADHD can provide strategies and support tailored to your needs. They can help you develop coping mechanisms for criticism, bolster your self-worth, and teach you effective communication skills to handle difficult interactions. 

Celebrate Your Neurodiversity 

Embrace and celebrate the neurodiversity that comes with ADHD. Recognise that your differences contribute to a richer, more varied world. Celebrating your unique cognitive style can turn potential vulnerabilities into strengths and help others see the value in diverse ways of thinking and being. 

Internalising these practices and perspectives can cultivate an unshakeable sense of self-worth impervious to external criticism. Always remember that others cannot diminish the essence of who you are. Your value and worth are inherent, not defined by others' opinions or judgments. Stand tall and embrace your unique ADHD journey with pride!

 

Readers Review

“Can I be honest here? I mostly focused on the summaries and suggested actions at the end of each chapter, as well as the exercises to discover yourself and work towards your goal.
And guess what? I got a lot of inspiration and encouragement from it! That's how I know that this book was made with ADHDers in mind.
It's got everything you might want as someone who's recently received an ADHD diagnosis -- a bunch of useful, well-structured information to help you find out what the diagnosis means for you, and how to adjust your life so that it suits you. Plus, it's easy to get through and get the gist of it.
There are also resources for people who haven't pursued a diagnosis yet, but might want to.

All in all, and even though I haven't read the whole book, I am giving it 5* because it was clear, informative and helpful, which is what I was looking for. Thank you so much for the ARC”!.   Marz H

Want a helping hand? Send me your email address to [email protected], and I will send you a Free PDF copy of LATE ADHD Diagnosis- Your New Beginning.

“One sign of high self-esteem is the ability to show yourself compassion. 

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