Jim Livingstone ADHD Newsletter

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The Power of ‘ONE’

For most of my life, I have struggled with trying to do too many things at once.

My ADHD curiosity combined with my ADHD hyper-productive ideas factory constantly gave me new things to try.

Not only was it exciting and exhausting, it was also grossly inefficient. I love to multitask and do multiple things at once, but I can’t focus effectively on two things at once. Multitasking is merely the opportunity to screw up more than one thing at a time.

Multitaskers make more mistakes than non-multitaskers. They often make poorer decisions because they favour new information over old, even if the older information is more valuable.

My solution was to retain myself to select my ONE major goal for the day, ideally the night before. Then I wrote up a SUCCESS list of the systems, tactics and tasks I needed to ACTION to achieve my intended goal.

All my focus and energy went into these steps until I reached my intended result or the time block I set for longer projects. I also found it much easier to ignore distractions.

Download the PDF below

Framework template

This Week’s Challenge.

Challenge Current ADHD Perceptions

Task: Question accepted perceptions of how ADHD impacts your life

Goal: To create a more honest view of what is fact, fiction or hearsay. The only way is to test the assumptions and see how they affect your life and what you can do to alter things.

I am currently writing this book, and I would like you to share the journey with me. I would love to hear your story and, with your consent, include it in the book, newsletter, or articles.

Peek Inside My Book…here is an unedited extract from Chapter 8

MANAGING RELATIONSHIPS

DISCUSSING YOUR DIAGNOSIS

Opening up about your diagnosis requires courage and vulnerability, as it involves sharing personal details about your mental health journey.

The diagnosis often explains longstanding challenges with organization, time management, attention span, and impulsivity.

It allows you to express your needs, preferences, and concerns, while also providing an opportunity for them to share their thoughts, ask questions, and engage in a meaningful dialogue

Communicating your diagnosis is important, and you can start with the following,

APPROACHING THE CONVERSATION

First, Educate Yourself:

Before initiating the conversation, make sure you have a solid understanding of adult ADHD and have relevant information, resources, and personal insights to answer any questions or concerns that may arise. This knowledge will enhance your confidence and credibility during the discussion.

Build Awareness:

Explaining your adult ADHD diagnosis can help your family, friends, and loved ones gain a better understanding of the condition. Educating them about ADHD will help them to recognize the symptoms, appreciate the challenges you face, and promote empathy.

Choose the Right Timing and Setting:

Pick an appropriate time and place to have a calm and uninterrupted conversation. Select a time when everyone is relaxed and free from distractions, ensuring you have enough time to discuss the topic fully. 

Express Your Emotions:

Share your experiences, emotions, and the impact ADHD has had on your life. Be open about the challenges, frustrations, and successes you have encountered. Sharing your personal stories can help your loved ones relate to your experiences and foster empathy.

Be sure to share the positive aspects and traits that ADHD provide. It’s not all negative. Use your sense of humour to lighten the conversation. 

Provide Information:

Explain the symptoms, common difficulties, and the treatment options available for adult ADHD. Share specific strategies you use to cope with challenges to help your loved ones understand the steps you take for self-management. 

Encourage Questions and Discussion:

Assure your loved ones that you welcome their questions and concerns. Encourage open dialogue and active listening to create space for them to share their thoughts, ask for clarification, and express their support.

Set Realistic Expectations:

Make it clear that ADHD is a lifelong condition that will require ongoing management. Emphasise that your diagnosis is not an excuse but an understanding that can lead to personal growth and improved self-care. 

By approaching these conversations with empathy, knowledge, and honesty, you can strengthen your relationships and cultivate an environment of acceptance, empathy, and compassion. 

Remember, everyone's understanding is unique, and their responses may vary. Keep the lines of communication open, allowing for ongoing discussions and continued support as you navigate life with ADHD.

to be continued next week………

Let me know what you think, the good, the bad and wtf?…link to comments on website

PS Love to hear your story if you want to share.

  Review…Dr Ragu Janakiraman - Consultant Psychiatrist

“Jim Livingstone's ADHD ADULTS: is a remarkable and empowering guide that stands as a testament to the author's deep understanding of ADHD and his unwavering commitment to supporting those affected by it. It is a must-read for anyone looking to navigate the complexities of adult ADHD with grace, strength, and knowledge”.

If you haven’t downloaded the complementary PDF of the first couple of chapters, now’s your chance.

Or if you have already and want to buy a copy  

 https://www.amazon.com//dp/B0BHKQV96M

Expect the Best,

If you’ve got a second, I would love to hear your thoughts and comments. [email protected]  I reply to every email.

This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice. The content in this newsletter is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional help if you believe you may have Mental Health Issues.